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By: The Gift of Anxiety | Livefearless

The Gift of Anxiety | Livefearless — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 05:29:18 +0000

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By: All In «

All In « — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 15:56:41 +0000

[…] For other men it may be a more overt acknowledgement, one useful in prompting dread or reigniting competition anxiety in women. Still for others, such as Petraeus, the acknowledgement doesn’t really come until […]

By: Dread Factor | barefoot in a clearing

Dread Factor | barefoot in a clearing — Fri, 21 Sep 2012 11:12:50 +0000

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By: Amused Mastery «

Amused Mastery « — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 18:41:00 +0000

[…] got ran up the flag pole by femosphere pundits when I wrote my essays on Dread and Dread Games. Women don’t like overt dominance, just as they don’t like overt […]

By: Year One «

Year One « — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 18:13:17 +0000

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By: 16 Years On «

16 Years On « — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 13:28:28 +0000

[…] none at all and the marriage becomes stagnant which is equally dangerous. In the right proportion, this anxiety makes for a marriage that retains it’s mutual desire (which is really analogous to Interest […]

By: K

Wed, 18 Apr 2012 23:37:21 +0000

Neecy, your angst with the ideas being presented here is merely the feeling that something is ‘false’ about what Rollo is proposing – that being, that there is some level of deception at play here when Rollo advocates taking her hamster for a spin. That’s understandable, and fair; but what is being missed is that in a healthy relationship with a man of high SMV, these interactions that inspire hints of jealousy happen naturally and without any prompting. Jealousy and insecurity aren’t markers of superficial people any more than any other natural human reaction to a situation.

Your opposition to the idea is based on your perception that it is a false behavior. What Rollo is trying to communicate is that in order to maintain a good and healthy relationship, you must continue to behave as one with a high SMV, and one hallmark of a man with high SMV is one who has options. He is reminding readers to, even if they wish to remain entirely faithful to the relationship, that periodic shows of high SMV traits are useful to maintain your significant other’s interest in you. Falsity isn’t the pont of the article, since most men are of a higher absolute value than what they may necessarily display in the marketplace (good job, responsible human being, trying to figure out how to get laid) and definitely higher value on a social level than whatever girl they’re fooling around with.

It’s so easy to slip on the icy brick road of hypergamy.

By: emmatheemo

emmatheemo — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 21:01:29 +0000

I can sort of understand the idea behind flirting with other women, but will first say that I never liked that LTR recommendation either, in a sense that it’s not for me (I’m naturally nervous and can get anxious too easily as it is). But the way I understood the post, it doesn’t seem like a bad recommendation to men in general. You probably don’t even have to flirt with other women to get the effect. If you’re a desirable man, they will talk to you, and then all you need is to be polite and friendly to them. Even if you aren’t extremely desirable, you can be social, and everyone talks to social people. Talking easily with women is probably all you need in a stable LTR, but creating dread or anxiety (things that sound relatively alienating…) might not be needed.