From Franklin’s letter to his young male confidant (on choosing a mistress):

” But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons:

1. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor’d with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc’d may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro’ more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin’d to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!”

I don’t think some of you are entirely swallowing the Red Pill. You can’t control your woman’s hypergamy. Sure you can try, you might be successful for a while in impacting it. However, there are too many variables outside of your control. Ultimately you can’t control how she views her situation and you. Any attempts to reason that you can is you being unable to accept the truth.

Your attempts to better yourself so that you’re worthy is nauseating. You will only be loved based on what she feels/gets from you (regardless of reality). If you’re unable to do as much as she thinks other men can then you fail. period. It doesn’t matter if you actually are better than her new lover; reality has no place in hamster-ville.

You can’t earn a woman’s love. EVER. (Because it’s not love in the sense that we think it is and want it. See another post here.) Stop trying to earn something that can’t be earned. Trying to earn/be worthy of a woman is operating in a woman’s frame.

C.S. Lewis had some pointed comments that relate. The blind spots each age has to its own assumptions … a sense of chronological snobbery where what is current is always better than that is past ages. It was why he insisted reading and understanding other periods as they were, not through our own blinders, as the best way to see our own blind spots.

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