Comments on: The Flow

By: Water Cannon Boy

Water Cannon Boy — Wed, 26 Feb 2014 03:22:30 +0000

It’s old, but I came here from the link in the most recent post. This can fill guys in on how some girls will end up liking them when they have no interest in them. And haven’t shown any interest in them.

By: Beta Fucks |

Beta Fucks | — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 03:54:46 +0000

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By: B. Dynamics « the professor

B. Dynamics « the professor — Sun, 23 Sep 2012 13:58:58 +0000

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By: walawala

walawala — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 16:08:35 +0000

Very true. I alternate between offering bits of information and being completely irreverant.

When you give witty replies to her questions, then suddenly throw in a serious answer, it’s a big mind-fuck.

That’s what I find really gets the hamster spinning.

It’s like “wow…where did that come from? What else is in there?”

A girl I’m now gaming and have banged twice is always asking tons of questions. I give various flippant answers, then thwo in somethign insightful or serious. Try it.

By: Rollo Tomassi

Rollo Tomassi — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 14:49:56 +0000

Glad you could benefit, thanks.

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 01:19:56 +0000

To clarify, that is to say similar to what @iamjersey201 said. It’s not that you are trying to qualify yourself to her (that would be fem-centric and put her in charge) for her approval and trying to get her familiar/comfortable with you by saying everything about you on the first date in hopes it will make her attracted to you (in fact, as Rollo said, it does the opposite and makes her less attracted). It is that she is qualifying herself to you, and thus you see if you are interested in her, and you do this by not saying much about you to her as you let her do most of the verbal talking. Then, you as a man take the lead in physically (non-verbally) escalating very gradually.
Rollo’s right about appealing to her emotions in many ways and Action “Dates” are a great way to get her feeling a variety of emotions. If she doesn’t feel emotions then she will say it’s boring. It’s fun to go on rollercoasters, etc, and make her feel exciting emotions with you.

By: The Shocker

The Shocker — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 01:19:53 +0000

Wait- that’s brilliant. The rush ‘to get past the uncomfortable stages of clumsily developing rapport’ through what-do-you-do-who-are-you talk stems from rejection-avoidance fear. Brilliant.

I’ve felt something was wrong whenever I devolved into that behavior. Now I know why.

I’ve wanted to laud you for a while now, but I really have to say you’ve been killing it in an area which has been underserved in the attraction-dynamics market. Understanding women. When you ‘get’ women, you don’t make mistakes. You have a knack for focusing on the subtleties of the female mind, and your writing has absolutely changed my game for the better. Thank you.

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 00:02:03 +0000

The other post made it sound like, there had been no date yet nor had there even been a date set up yet, the people aready were around each other thus knew somethings about the others based on the perception of their observations (especially non-verbal) but the women had some interest so that was good, but the main thing was with only a few weeks left to make a move there was a sense of urgency (not desperation though) so he didn’t have a lot of time to ask at least one of them out on a “date.” Now this post goes into being on “dates” and not disclosing too much about you. It’s better to not verbalize your interest in her for instance to not say, “I think I like you” or “Am I your type?” or “I feel that we make a good couple,” or you will then probably be asking “Wait, what did I say, come back, please.” Therefore, it’s better to not say your feelings at all unless in a LTR or marriage (and even then not too often).
Many Game bloggers/instructors are in their 20’s/30’s/40’s/50’s and a bunch of them say to neg, but this is probably one of the biggest misconceptions in all of game theory because many newbies to game might think they “have to” to go out and neg/put down every women as a DHV but they don’t even “have to neg” and they end up at worst being an angry abuser and at best sounding stupid (neither is a good vibe). An exception is for a complete bitch, then neg, but it’s better to just say bye. Saying to a girl “You’re ugly” is a neg, but it’s probably not going to increasing her attraction. It’s probably better instead of negative negs, to call them “Playful Teases” because usually if she doesn’t view it as playful and maybe even laugh (increasing arousal), then it’s probably not going to lead to going along with an escalation or another date.
Men can and want to escalate from 0 to 60 in like 10 seconds. Women escalate (going from meet to getting physical while feeling that it just is happening naturally) from 0 to 60 in hours to many days. Therefore, it’s usually better for a man to physically escalate slowly and GRADUALLY, and this along with not saying much info about you because you are qualifying to see if you are interested in her, is the main points of these two (so far) posts. Good points.