http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf

The Incidental kino tracks to what RT is calling Casual kino and Overt kino tracks to what RT is calling Strategic kino.

In our crowded but atomized society, where everyone believes themselves to have a “personal zone of privacy,” stepping into that taboo forthrightly and without apology leaves a lasting impression. There is no customary way to verbalize a defense, except by escalating it to the extreme: Don’t touch me!!!! So if it remains a subtle transgression, the touched girl must internalize her confusion and attempt to sort it all out privately. She knows it is not a true invasion of her bodily integrity worth making a public fuss over, and at the same time she knows it is not nothing.

Now, if you have demonstrated your value, the kino is not an invasion but rather a welcome or even sought-after response from the Man in The Room, a secret little prize that she packs away into her id like collectable porcelain.

Whether welcome or surprising, kino knocks her off her stride. The assumption that she is literally untouchable by strangers is kicked out from under her like a stool, and she is left flailing to regain her balance. She is not used to being literally man-handled, her tummy tells her she wants to be, but her brain says she shouldn’t want to be and hey! he’s not supposed to! Her reaction can go either way, considering how comfortable you’ve made her in the run-up and how subtly you’ve deployed your method. She will either lean toward a tummy reaction or a brain reaction: confusion and excitement, or discomfort and alarm.

And if you have demonstrated your value sufficiently, the girls will initiate the kino for you. (If this doesn’t happen to you often, you aren’t aloof enough.) When that happens, a whole new world of options opens up: a fantastic point of view: no one to tell you no, or where to go, or say you’re only dreaming. You can open her eyes, take her wonder by wonder, over, sideways and under, on a magic carpet ride. A whole new world! A dazzling place she never knew! When she’s way up there, it’ll be crystal clear, that now she’s in a whole new world with you.

It’s not just magical, it’s Disney magicallllll.

Imagine kino as communicating your thoughts without speaking, a kind of low-grade Extrasensory Projection (the other ESP), or cognokinesis.

Crucial to kino’s deployment is the naturalness of one’s technique. It must flow from your personality without a hitch or a hiccup, and can never be accompanied by the conscious or unconscious thought, “I will touch you here and now.”

A good example of the awkwardness of kino fuck-up is the Sideways scene where Miles misplays his move in every possible way against Mia, hesitating when he should have pounced, overthinking it in the bathroom, then pouncing when he should have remained aloof:

Madsen has aged well, considering her formerly ridiculous hotness in her prime, and her maturity allows her to convey a pitch perfect example of game. Yes, here is an example of the woman upping the game quotient when the man’s efforts aren’t quite adequate, leaving a vacuum in the middle of a relationship both want to progress. Do women do this in real life? Hey, it’s a movie.

I can’t find a clip of the cringe-inducing follow-up fuck-up, though, which was the point of posting it. (Yes, he fucks it up even worse than his cowardly withdrawal from her kino depicted above.)

This is one of the sexiest scenes ever committed to film, followed by one of the most awkward, though the full impact of them together is only available in context of the rest of the movie. Sideways is excellent all around, great great, one of the best of all time, a classic.

However, since I’m mostly dumb and horny, I don’t like to overthink these things. It was the second date and she was tipsy, and any move whatsoever on my part would have been the most romantic gesture ever in her brain.

If you’re “isolated” with a woman and she’s responding to flirtatious touching, it’s the home stretch and you really shouldn’t need a bunch of jargony PUA theory to get laid at that point. (On the other hand, if the point of this post was “don’t be a creep by rubbing random girls”, then I agree.)

I make eye contact with a girl I’m gaming. It’s become part of our ritual. She looks at me, raises her eye brows in an inviting way, asking me to come over to talk to her or smiling with her eyes if I wink.

She will try to get me attention with her eyes only to then look away if I look her way.

Alternately she will pretend she’s not looking at me only to get caught out if she looks over and sees me looking in her direction.