Comments on: The Paradox of Commitment

By: Frank Squisher

Frank Squisher — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 01:19:39 +0000

I see this simply. If you make a commitment, honor that. For yourself; regardless of what they would do having the circumstances reverse.

The key though is making the RIGHT commitment. You start off with few terms and sit down to re-evaulate potentially add terms so long as the relationship is going well. Only move forwards never backwards.

eg.

Meet a girl. Get together once a week while still seeing other people…TIme passes, become exclusive. So long as needs are met and fun is being had, remain exclusive. If you begin to become emotionally involved, consider it a relationship, perhaps spend more time together. Other than that terms stay the same. Continue with this, always live in the moment with respect to your relationship to ensure your making the most of your time with woman. Never compromise or make sacrifices to accommodate her. Never commit to anything long term besides a friendship. Make HER make the commitments to you. Make HER adjust to your life. The worthy mate and potential LTR woman will adjust to you. And if you know what you’re doing you’ll do the right thing for yourself and keep her happiness in mind aswell.

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By: Kristina Marchant

Kristina Marchant — Sun, 13 Oct 2013 01:16:17 +0000

Whenever I get into these debates about infidelity (albeit usually from the male perspective), and it becomes an immoral / amoral / moralist ménage à trois, I wonder, what is the greater “moral” imperative; to remain faithful to your morally obligated commitment with your spouse in spite of a loveless, passionless, sexless partner, or to break that commitment in order to pursue the obligation and commitment you owe yourself as a “superior” Man deserving of a better “quality” partner?”
What a bunch of crap! A lot of men just want to stick it in something different, not better quality. As a once heard a man explain it: “if I got thin and tall at home, sometimes I want short and chubby just to switch it up.” And most of these men claim they are happily married and have a healthy sex life with their wife. I don’t think wanting the cake and eating it too has anything to do with becoming more superior. Maybe more greedy, selfish and hurtful.

By: deadliftman

deadliftman — Tue, 08 Oct 2013 03:18:07 +0000

I concur with his views. Obviously no commitment is limitless. There are always rules and boundaries. But, the idea of ditching a commitment because you don’t feel the passion any more is a sign of a weakness.

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By: Javier

Javier — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 08:47:00 +0000

I use to do the same with my friends and get constantly clowned for the things I said in this blog and numerous others. They’re still taking the blue pill, so I just say whatever’s. I made a commitment to myself and I’m bettter for it.

And I continuously shake my head and laugh at friends because they are wondering “why they can’t get into and/or maintain loving relationship with girls?”.

By: Issac Jordan

Issac Jordan — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 06:04:52 +0000

Thank you, Rollo, for taking the time to put ideas like these out in the world.

Life after the red pill is tough, and made all the more difficult when one is a shepherd surrounded by sheep. I find myself constantly wanting to discuss my newfound knowledge of game/evo-psych/biomechanics, yet nearly every guy I know insists on maintaining his white knight worldview.

A good friend of mine is two years deep into a relationship with a girl who refuses to sex him up. Yet he continues to spend time/money/energy on the chick, insisting that if he “shows the strength of his commitment” maybe one day she’ll put out. It’s hard watching him throw away the best years of his life, yet every time I attempt to direct him to blogs such as these he just insists that I “don’t understand how love works” and blows me off.

Whatever. At least I’m getting laid.