And fuck all the douchebags in the comments bragging of how easy they get the girls, you’re the fucking cancer on this earth, you’re the reason why decent guys turn into assholes to get a chance to get laid.

I am 42, male virgin, Christian, Asperger Syndrome, the victim of female-perpetrated sexual abuse between ages 12 and 18. Effectively the Black and Decker Workmate where the predatory women described learned and honed their skills… to my humiliation… caused me to fall headfirst into traumatic eating to dull the pain.

I also work from home as I suffer from cellulitis in my lower legs, will always have lymph problems (which even precludes massage) – so absolutely NO touch except the professional work done by district nurses when they redress my legs…

Growing up as i did with romantic ideals emanating from lyrics etc in the 70s and early 80s… my entire sexual development was derailed by the abuse. Spent most of my adult life terrified by women and sex… and it would appear that the more romantic, big-hearted man is dead in the water. Even before he’s had a chance. I held out hope for the kind of love-life and sex life expressed in the lyrics put forward by people like Huey Lewis, Peter Cetera, even Ian Dury. Even the “I want ot wake up with you” kind of dynamic…

Yes. Beta.

I wanted the kind of comfy, satisfying, nourishing, loving, tender sex life that my parents had, that I saw couples having… also hoped to have the chance to “christen every room.flat surface in the home”… wanted the chance of a life partner where we’d have each other’s backs… and we could bloody RELAX and TRUST that our partner loved us and would NEVER deliberately hurt us.

But we’re now destined to risk living in the Jeremy Kyle show?

Re sexual prowess – what have I, as a shy, introverted Aspie male virgin got to offer? I have to go from 0 to inducing multiple orgasms on demand on the first time out? In order to THEN even go into a competition even before my heart has an attempt to connect to the girl’s heart? And then my heart hits scar tissue? And I risk an STI first time out?

I don’t even have a chance to get into my stride? As I’d need to know I’m safe before giving myself to a woman.

And being autistic – I can’t lie like that – I can’t fake being a bastard, because I’m NOT a bastard!.

Excuse me while i cry…

Very true – this has evolved over the last decade or even a bit less – not that long ago making out would almost guarantee additional contact – these days not so much. This is why I have moved away from clubs and such – they are useful for quickies, if you want sex for tonight – no worries – it’s still a spur of the moment event. If you want sex for the next month – you need to use a different technique.

Now to a certain extent I’m sure that is due to my getting older – and women rethinking their actions (OMG he’s old enough to be my Dad), but you have to evolve your control of the relationship dynamics. The best way I’ve found for that is to control it from the beginning – I have several ways of doing that, but I won’t go into it here. Suffice it to say that you have to evolve with your target audience – what worked last year, won’t work in 5 years. Adapt or die… (Or more appropriately – adapt, or sit at home with nothing, and no one, to do…

why? because although my “game” is decent to sometimes better than most, i make it a point to blow EVERY girls mind when i sex them up.

i agree with an earlier statement that generally the sex is not important its’ your desire for her that is, but once she gives it up, if you WRECK it, the allure of RELIABLE good, satisfying, intense sex, will have the females doing things you would never imagine to ensure it continues.

^THIS^

Rollo, please be so kind as to expand on these sentences for a future post(s). Thank you in advance.

If you try to keep them as a fb they will lose feeling for you after the two-month mark and begin to search for new cock elsewhere.

Girls don’t give a fuck about sex, they only care enough that you want to bang them. As long as they see through your actions that you geniunely want sex with them, and push for it, the actual act of sex is immaterial.

A girl does not like you for sex nearly as much as she likes you for your game.

Does 3 bangs therefore decrease the odds of a flake? No more than 1 bang does. I.e. no effect