Comments on: Would you leave if she got fat?

By: bob

bob — Sat, 20 Jul 2013 20:51:41 +0000

If only women would do what you are saying,Mary. Then divorce rates would be much lower.

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 26 May 2013 23:37:59 +0000

I don’t believe your assesment of the situation is thorough or accurate.
It is true that women put a set of expectations on a man when she considers whether or not to marry him. But if they don’t vocalize those expectations then they probably won’t get them. Have you ever known a man to tell his fiance she better not get fat and then not get what he asked for?
If a man’s only expectation is that his future wife will always weigh between X and X (I mean screw how well she can cook, clean, bear and raise children, do laundry, keep finances in order, PTO, doctor’s appointments… well, all those things men don’t consider when choosing a spouse [by your standard… I mean, men only pick good looking women for biological reasons, right?]) then that man will most likely be let down at some point. But if a woman picks a husband based solely on the income of her possible suitor… well, she’s in for a heartbreak as well.
I don’t know if you’ve ever been married. But a lifelong committment to another human being (and then bring children into the mix?) is a multi-faceted situation. If she’s happy just so long as you’re rich, good looking, sensitive, and you never make her look bad in front of her friends, are you really suggesting that all she needs to do to keep your attention is stay good-looking?
I’m old-fasioned. I do think a man should have a job. But what about when both partners have jobs and there are kids involved?
Don’t take me wrong. I think everyone, men and women alike, should take time to take care of themselves. But the situation you are describing here (man does everything to care for his family and woman does nothing but lay around spending money and getting fat) is made up. It’s not real. Yeah, women gain weight when they get married… so do men. Yeah, women’s sex drive goes down after they’ve been with the same person for a while… so do mens’.
People should not get married based on looks or money. Those things do go away. If you love the person you are with then it will withstand richer and poorer and better and worse. And for God’s sake, if your spouse’s weight is a big deal, have that conversation before you get married!
(BTW, the only girls I ever knew who cheated on their husbands because they were unemployed were called whores, not ‘prudent’, so I don’t know where your information comes from but you might want to question it.)

By: cat

cat — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 05:21:12 +0000

Amen!

By: Josh

Josh — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 20:09:04 +0000

At least use a suitable picture for your post. Jessica Simpson is not by any means ‘fat’ in that image. :/

By: Kai

Kai — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 17:50:23 +0000

Curvy=/=Obese. Don’t conflate them.

By: just visiting

just visiting — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:21:59 +0000

Love between a man and a woman. is conditional. If you want unconditional love, you’ve got a mother. If you didn’t get it from your mother, you’ve got a creator. Ex hubby has unconditional love from me, and a man has to throw his life in flames pretty badly for an ex to love unconditionally. But it’s maternal, not the love between a man and a woman.

By: workafrolic

workafrolic — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 10:53:04 +0000

Currently it is chic for women to be thin (and to be seen with said thin woman), but for many centuries, the voluptuous (aka fat) women were desired because that fatness indicated nutritional status, wealth and fertility. Now thinness is a good indicator of self-restraint, fitness level and a healthy diet (still indicates the same three things, just now different with societal changes.)

It simply is higher status nowadays to be with a thin woman than with a fat one. Ultimately it is less about body type and more about what society has deemed high status as men and women alike are shameless ladder-climbers.

Men had no trouble fucking the curvy type centuries ago, in fact it was deemed much more attractive than the waifish, boyish bodies that some girls try for. Personally, if I were a man, I’d go for a woman with a C cup, slender but not bony legs, curvy butt and thighs and a defined waist.

Both men and women need to get that long-term relationships take work and that involves physical maintenance, financial maintenance/growth and personality checks. Man or woman who fails to see the competitive nature of relationships is asking to be dumped.

By: Deep Dish

Deep Dish — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 16:50:31 +0000

I’ve met beta guys who were dumped after their girlfriends lost 50 pounds, showing how predictably conditional love is. Favorite line of Chris Rock: “Fellas, have you ever been going through some hard times with your woman—you lose your job or something? Your woman tries to console you, saying, /Hey baby, don’t worry, we’re going to get through this. I know we’ve got some bills, but if we have to get rid of some of this shït, we will get rid of some of this shït.’ She’s talking about you. Fellas, if you lose your job, you will lose your woman. She may not leave the day you lose it, but the countdown has begun.”