Comments on: The Myth of the Lonely Old Man

By: The Under-Appreciated Benefits Of Solitude

The Under-Appreciated Benefits Of Solitude — Sat, 28 Mar 2015 20:00:42 +0000

[…] Indeed, man is a social being. But realistically speaking, does the “social” expectation of seeking relationships make sense in the long run? In the end, the truth always reveals itself :the real test for a man is how he lives with himself, alone. […]

By: Sebhai

Sebhai — Sat, 14 Mar 2015 08:50:39 +0000

@Driver
“As men age, they will truly increase in their SMV and it will be men who pick which women they want to include in their lives. Don’t let anyone or anything (FI) tell you differently.”

Read this…written by Chris Okano

“I have spent thousands of dollars trying to find the woman of my desire and for the past 9 years have been alone fighting the urge to have to resort to criminal alternatives to normal relations for lack of being able to find a woman of my desire in our society.”

“Anyone trying to tell you differently is selling something.”

Tell that to Chris Okano….

By: cholo

cholo — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 23:02:27 +0000

Oh boy! Randy has issues far beyond anything discussed above. My guess is he tried to do it all himself throughout life, painting himself into a corner from which there was no escape, except with the help of others, for which, by then, he was too proud to ask. Pride does truly goeth before the fall! Sorry, Randy, know your type and have little sympathy for that type.

After reviewinga and analyzing a lot on this site and in the comments, to me the first step in any RP recovery is to completely banish the notion of ONEITIS and its nasty little sidekick, Soulmate. Once you’ve seen that light, much of the rest falls into place more easily. If you can’t be rid of those demons, first, bitterness will take over, making recovery ever more difficult.

By: Driver

Driver — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 11:00:45 +0000

As men age, they will truly increase in their SMV and it will be men who pick which women they want to include in their lives. Don’t let anyone or anything (FI) tell you differently.

Women (and society) are always ready to shame a man at a moments notice for anything that doesn’t seem to “fall in line” with the “status quo”. The shaming of men dating younger women, the strong support of older women (cougars) dating younger men, men (only) having the “mid life crisis” etc, etc…are all meant to keep men in line with that imperative.

There is a reason why so many older men in society are seen as attractive (by many women of all ages) as they age and not the reverse. Men increase in value because of their overall value in all departments (not just looks). Yes, you’ll have a few exceptions to the rule (far and few between) but this rule stands true.

Anyone trying to tell you differently is selling something.

By: Memento Mori |

Memento Mori | — Fri, 20 Feb 2015 05:52:59 +0000

[…] context of women that they’ll live lives of quiet desperation. I outlined this in the Myth of the Lonely Old Man – the threat point is one where men are encouraged to believe that if they don’t comply […]

By: MB

MB — Sat, 14 Feb 2015 03:12:47 +0000

I was single between the ages of 23 and 32. Prior to that period in my life, I regularly hooked up with women. Could pick them up (fairly) easily – mainly to the fact that I have always been overtly masculine and good looking. Despite that, I had no ability to keep them b/c I would get Oneitis so easily. At 23 I became a Christian and then embarked on a decade of celibacy. Finally after being tired of being alone I grabbed the nearest Christian girl I could find and married her. She was looks wise and socially much lower than my SMV but b/c my Frame was so weak she actually was the stronger one in the relationship. She quickly tired of me and upon flimsy pretexts (porn usage = adultrey) divorced me. It was after she left me, that I discovered the Red Pill. Despite my Christian faith I heartily embraced a lifestyle of fornication. For awhile, it felt good to madly and aggressively fuck hot women with no desire whatsoever to commit. Finally I knew my self worth and realized I didn’t need a relationship with a women to be happy. My world went from scarcity to abundance. This in turn allowed me to have high standards for what women was going to have a relationship with me in the future . Well after a period of time living like this, I became convicted that the player lifestyle wasn’t compatible with my faith and had to end. As it was winding down and I was still spinning a plate or two I met my now second wife. She passed many of the tests that I had and I decided she was worth keeping. Its not all bliss but she’s been pretty good.One of the things that I continue to do to maintain my edge is to keep my friendships with my guy friends strong. Another is to always make a point of talking and very lightly flirting with hot women when I see them while I am out and about. By doing both of these things it gives me tremendous confidence to face any loss that I could potentially experience in my now current marriage. If she were to pass away or even (doubtfully) divorce me I know that my friends would be there for me and my game would still be razor sharp.

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» The Myth Of The Lonely Old Man — Tue, 11 Nov 2014 19:11:33 +0000

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By: Robert What?

Robert What? — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 21:22:21 +0000

what are the options for a divorced (wife’s affair) guy in his late 50’s? In good shape, healthy, successful, full head of not-gray hair, etc etc. BUT, up until finding sites like Rollo’s a couple of years ago, was a lifelong beta-white-knight. Won’t do online dating, won’t do speed dating. Is such a man in the LOM phase or does he have options? Opinions anyone?