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By: 20 Questions |

20 Questions | — Thu, 14 Aug 2014 04:19:07 +0000

[…] guys go searching for answers about how they can get back with an ex, or why their last LTR imploded on them because they went too Beta or didn’t understand the […]

By: Purgatory |

Purgatory | — Wed, 21 May 2014 03:57:43 +0000

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By: Financial Frame | The Reinvention of Man

Financial Frame | The Reinvention of Man — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 04:09:47 +0000

[…] her ending our relationship. At last it is over and this relationship will have to go out like yesterdays garbage. At least I am not burdened by any desire to reconnect with her […]

By: Rooting through garbage | – The Rational Male | Win Her Back

Rooting through garbage | – The Rational Male | Win Her Back — Thu, 27 Jun 2013 19:49:41 +0000

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By: Detox «

Detox « — Tue, 15 May 2012 15:12:38 +0000

[…] You’re feeling hopeless about her and your present condition because the cessation of what you’ve mistaken as a reward for so long is now out of reach. You need to understand that what you want to go back to isn’t what you think it is, nor will it ever “get better”. Even if you could reengage with her, it will never be what you think it could. […]

By: Old Flame, New Game «

Old Flame, New Game « — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:41:15 +0000

[…] However, the far more entrapping situation is being the ‘sure thing’ in this episode. AFC guys resort to ‘sure thing’ thinking constantly, but it’s not uncommon for women too. What tends to happen when we find ourselves at the end of an immersing LTR is that we look for what rewarded us prior to our involvement with the monogamous relationship. Naturally, monogamy requires the lion’s share of our attentions, so when that attention is freed as the result of a break up, the automatic response is to seek out what had previously rewarded us with good feelings (sex). So we return to the ‘sure thing’; the person, habit, behavior, that rewarded us before. It’s really just subconscious deductive reasoning. When you lack options, the tendency is to go back to what worked before. It’s the path of least resistance, because the perception is that it will be easier to return to that sure reward than to generate new rewarding situations (i.e. fear of rejection). The inherent problem with this is that, although this might work in the short term, what been rewarding before has fundamentally changed. […]

By: ♠A

♠A — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 08:48:21 +0000

Possibly the best “Break up” song for men ever:

By: detinennui32

detinennui32 — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 20:11:07 +0000

What are the other Iron Rules of Tomassi and where can I find them?